Sunday, July 29, 2007

It's been six months

... since my father died.
For certain is death for the born
And certain is birth for the dead;
Therefore over the inevitable
Thou shouldst not grieve. (The Bhagvad Gita)
Death is certain. So is grief.


angelmeg said...

You will get through the pain into a more bittersweet time. Allow yourself to move through the stages'feel the emotions, and if you can share with someone the feelings (if that isn't an option journal or write them here).

One of my friends who was 52 when his father died said he really didn't become an adult until he experienced the loss of his father. That was an entire day of "Lectio of life" for me. I think I see what he means now.

thomps said...

angelmeg, you're comments ring true for me as well. I was 35 when my parents died within a month of each other. I thought I was all grown up and mature but I wasn't. I truly grew up after my folks died. Time is a great healer. I still miss my parents but I now can look back at both the good and bad times with a great deal of affection for them. For at least a year I had trouble remembering their physical selves as they were in life. All I could see was the two of them in their coffins and lifeless. A friend who had recently lost her mother had the same experience in remembering as I did.

Gashwin said...

Maggie, thomps, thanks for taking the time out to share some helpful thoughts. Yes, time is a great healer. Things aren't as they were six months ago. I'm so grateful for the opportunity to be back home in SC for a while and heal, and for all the friends here who've made this such an awesome summer.